Seriously, can we get real for a minute?
Last week I was scrolling through my Facebook feed when a post from a friend stopped my scrolling finger dead in it’s tracks.
My friend was asking for advice from her other mama friends for a recommendation for a mother’s day out for her little girl.
But, what I read next broke my heart. She continued her post asking for “no drama” and explaining that she loved her daughter more than anything.
She continued on saying she felt guilty for needing some time away. Why? Why do we do this to ourselves?
It’s like our sweet little newborns come to us with a side of guilt.
“Congratulations mom, she’s beautiful! And, here’s your delicious side of guilt for your parenting pleasure.”
When I was pregnant with my youngest son, Avery, I wanted nothing more than to stay home with him. For the first time ever we were financially in a place where that was possible.
One year in and my reality set in. It was hard, and exhausting, and often thankless.
We were living in Germany at the time and I was away from my family and close circle of friends. I had days of feeling isolated, craving adult conversation, getting out of my yoga pants, and brushing my cockatoo hair (if you’ve ever had short hair you know what I mean). I felt horribly guilty when I had thoughts of going back to work. After all, this is what I wanted, or so I thought.
When Avery was fifteen months old I went back to nursing two days a week. For me, it was just enough to fill up my cup. I was happier when I was home with my children and I know I was more attentive and patient. Yes, I needed a little me time.
Let’s Get Real.
You need a little time to yourself to get things done, pamper yourself, hang with with your girlfriends, or just take a nap…do it!
I give you permission to let go of that guilt and just do it. Needing some time away from your littles for some self care and love isn’t selfish.
Motherhood is hard, and messy, and beautiful. WE are all mother’s getting it done.
Can we just wrap our arms around each other and share a big ole hug for making it through another day?
Have you heard of Kristina Kusmic: The Truth Bomb Mom? I love her candid, funny, and in your face take on motherhood.
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[Video] You’re Normal.
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